This much I knew already:
2. The slave can walk away at any time, and in many cases, SHOULD walk away.
3. If you feel that you can't walk away then you are being held against your will.
4. It is not a lot of fun forcing someone to be with you when they don't desire you
5. Most women want to be the object of desire
6. Nobody wants to be tied to someone who does not desire them.
This is true for everyone. You might not care why you are desired just as long as you are.
7. Nobody knows the future. There is no guarantee that your feelings will remain the same forever.
Human nature, being what it is almost guarantees that your feelings will change.
On one of the forums I frequent, there is some discussion about using slave or sub contracts in your
relationship. I don't use contracts. I have no need to put things in writing. I know that even if I knew what I wanted, there is no guarantee that what I want now is what I will want next month.
I also strongly believe that my wedding vows are sufficient when two people are in love, and when they have committed to each other.
So, what kind of promises did I make to my husband and my sub?
I promised to always be their friend. I promised to help and support them, to treat them with respect and decency, to love them as best I can, to rejoice with them, to grieve with them. I did not promise anything that I could not keep to.
Everything else is fluid and depends on circumstances. I think that is as it should be. There is an important element of trust that is essential.
Here is an article about slave contracts that I find informative.
I recommend that if your submissive partner starts talking about wanting a contract (because he read about such things on the internet) that both of you read this article, and at least take the time to think about whether or not you need one or really want one, and how you should structure one if you decide that a contract would work for you.