tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-70265409067881804392024-03-13T00:27:20.566-04:00Stealth Domme: My adventures in discoveryDisclaimer: This blog is intended for ADULTS. If you are under the age of 18, move along. Nothing for you here.MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.comBlogger60125truetag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-21249021061070595862015-02-24T19:47:00.000-05:002015-02-24T19:54:42.367-05:00Closing it downI just noticed that it has been a year since I last posted here. I have been dealing with a lot of life...including a fight with breast cancer. I am doing a lot of reading while being treated and recuperating, and not so much thinking about sex and sexual relationships.
I think this blog has run its course.
I still recommend that those of you who are still seeking check out some of the MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-33947620006879821512014-02-27T10:34:00.000-05:002014-02-27T10:34:49.338-05:00Same as AlwaysSo, we are watching a movie on TV the other night. It's cold outside, so we've bumped up the heat, and he is wearing only his flannel sleep pants, and my flannel nightgown is all I need tonight. His head is in my lap, his right hand lazily stroking the calf of my leg as he comments on the film or something. I am not listening. His voice is background music as I notice that his dark hair has MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-78905463864792880992014-02-22T17:38:00.001-05:002014-02-22T17:38:14.012-05:00Consensual BDSM for stress relief.
First of all, kudos to the scientists who are actually studying our kinky little ways, instead of dismissing them out of hand as perversions and mental disorders. In research presented last week at the annual meeting
of the Society for Personality and Social Psychology in Austin, Texas they concluded that:
Consensual sadomasochism was long considered pathological, but psychologists MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-91790707249030506982014-01-07T12:35:00.000-05:002014-01-07T12:35:00.976-05:00This Year's Going to be BetterHappy New Year, everyone. I am determined that 2014 is going to be better. I am "starting as I mean to go on," as my grandmother used to say. I am going to enforce my rules with my men, spread love and joy around as much as possible, do more of what I want to do, disengage from unwanted activities, exercise better supervision regarding hubby and subby so they are more efficient (and I am less MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-10054514877086315252013-10-27T19:37:00.000-04:002013-10-27T19:36:56.437-04:00Healing"I am woman. Hear me roar..." yada, yada, yada and all that, sure. But sometimes I remember that all I ever wanted was to be his Baby. I am older than he is, yes, that, too. I am a little more experienced, true. I am old as well. But in my heart, in my secret self, sometimes I need to be his Baby.
I need him to hold me in his arms and reassure me. I need him to casually greet me, "Hey, Baby." (MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-73423647709205256422013-09-10T08:42:00.000-04:002013-09-10T08:48:25.202-04:00Week of HorrorIt has been a horrific week. Hubby's mobile phone. I think you know what I found. After initially trying to deny the evidence that I was holding in my hand, he admitted that he had been unfaithful to me. The woman had been with my husband once, evidently, and was anxious to try it again. They were planning an assignation for this past weekend. He had not gotten as far as deciding how he wasMsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-66442051760474295862013-08-08T22:37:00.002-04:002013-08-08T22:43:05.997-04:00Be Her Lover, Be Her HusbandFrom the friend of a very good friend on Facebook. I think he says it all. I can't think of anything to add, but I felt I must share. I know you guys will be reading this in terms of an FLR, but it applies to any relationship between people who love/loved each other. Just read this.
By David Mikus
(about a week ago)
Obviously, I’m not a relationship expert. But there’s something about my MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-91159539208150272472013-07-28T19:40:00.000-04:002013-07-28T19:40:09.699-04:00Catnip for NarcisissistsThis is a very interesting discussion about Narcissistic Personality Disorder from the Huffington Post. I just happened on it, but it struck me that many D/s relationships might have this sort of problem, just by the very nature of Dominance and Submission itself.
I know there are plenty (and perhaps a concentrated number) of "broken" people who are in the D/s lifestyle; people who have suffered MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-35925765597587338122013-07-09T17:18:00.001-04:002013-07-09T17:18:46.173-04:00Back on PointSo things seem to be back to nearly normal for Felix and me. I had to start some drama...act like an asshole with all the hollering and threats and general ass-holishness to get him to straighten up. That is not me, and I get very distressed when I have to act all crazy to snap him out of it.
Some of you may remember that I had to do the same thing to snap him out of the winter SAD (Season MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-86668738682749204412013-06-25T10:52:00.000-04:002013-06-25T10:52:13.323-04:00Out of My ControlMy relationship with my dearest Felix seems to have gone out of control. It's an online relationship, which makes that harder to take.
He suffers from depression. I knew that. But I felt that I was able to bring a little joy to his life. I really did. But he has, over the last week been in touch with me only obliquely...he likes my posts on Facebook, he takes his turn at Words With Friends. But MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-45539932045623770352013-06-03T21:12:00.000-04:002013-06-03T21:38:29.600-04:00Bucket ListBronnieWare wrote this
article for AARP.org on February 1, 2012 about what the people she cared
for in the last weeks of their lives, as a palliative care professional, told
her they regretted now that they were dying.
I think
this is something we need to think about in terms, not just of our day-to-day
lives, but in terms of our sexuality. Looking at this from my viewpoint, having,
later MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-80441359306704294792013-04-30T14:55:00.000-04:002013-06-03T21:43:52.750-04:00Eternal Vigilance is ExhaustingI don't know if it is laziness, complacency, or carelessness on my part that leads my man to snap at me when I correct him, to make stupid decisions on his own, or to just be careless in his service. I don't let these things pass, but they really shouldn't happen, should they?
I was so angry when I got a call from the bank reminding me that the monthly payment was late...first time in 10 MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-86392918190309821672013-04-06T12:49:00.003-04:002013-04-06T12:49:44.747-04:00I have been remiss<!--[if gte mso 9]>
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MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-63947152997178039892013-02-12T09:27:00.000-05:002013-02-12T09:54:24.071-05:00Ahh, RomancePeople are always giving advice to men about how to romance their women. There is also lots of information out there for submissive men about how to romance their dominants. However, there is precious little information for a dominant woman about how to provide a little romance for our submissive partners without upsetting the apple cart of a Female Led Relationship.
How do we show our men how MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-63863364088186771342013-02-08T22:39:00.001-05:002013-02-08T22:39:59.507-05:00How I Snapped Him Out of ItHappy New Year and Valentine's Day, dear ones! I have actually been living my life since my last post. Getting lots of year-starting type things done. However, My Treasure has been suffering from Seasonal Affect Disorder (SAD) . Now I tried being all sensitive and understanding, letting him be uncommunicative and sleeping all the time. He has a standing requirement to contact me daily, but IMsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-46525442195586212252012-12-15T10:25:00.000-05:002012-12-15T10:25:28.172-05:00Sub-spottingAt my husband's company holiday party the other night, I was introduced to my husband's secretary (or as she calls it, "administrative assistant") who is a nice, nerdy girl. I was also introduced to her boyfriend, a stunningly handsome man who obviously works out. He was carrying two plates of food. When he approached, she, in the middle of a conversation with another woman, didn't even look at MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-67814404604685720712012-12-14T15:09:00.000-05:002012-12-14T15:13:51.567-05:00Submission is not a feminine traitIt really irritates me when someone, anyone, refers to my submissive friend, or someone else's submissive male partner as "girly" or "sissy" or "the woman" in the relationship. And it is even more insulting when the man is obviously not effeminate.
Why is submissiveness assumed to be a feminine trait? I think it is just that men wish women were inherently submissive. Men have been trained to MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-89004502525283017652012-10-14T16:55:00.000-04:002012-10-14T16:57:38.817-04:00Sex in the 55 to 65 demographicI admit it. I am in that demographic. This is when, actually, I started to really come into my own sexually and recognizing my dominance after I had my hysterectomy and was suddenly free from birth control. Since then, I have been exploring the Femdom blogosphere, and have met many, many intelligent, articulate and wonderful people who have helped me in my journey to realizing my power in my MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-23367651646117613512012-10-02T20:28:00.002-04:002012-10-02T20:30:39.473-04:00Humanizing Desire
English: A man handcuffed to a bed and blindfolded (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
I have just started following this blog, Lipstick and Ligature, and I absolutely adore it. So much genius. This is an article I think everyone needs to read. I love it when you get The Truth. So read this.
http://lipstickandligature.wordpress.com/2012/10/02/humanizing-desire/
Points made that hit the mark MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-56453008798635826322012-09-29T16:06:00.000-04:002012-09-29T17:10:04.232-04:00On contractsThis much I knew already:
1. Slavery is against the law so a slave contract is not binding under the law.
2. The slave can walk away at any time, and in many cases, SHOULD walk away.
3. If you feel that you can't walk away then you are being held against your will.
4. It is not a lot of fun forcing someone to be with you when they don't desire you
5. Most women want to be the object of desireMsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-41969505971479553052012-09-18T12:17:00.000-04:002012-09-18T12:31:45.252-04:00Pegging
I was doing some research on pegging, since I am gradually introducing subby hubby to anal play. He is kind of squeamish, but I want to nudge him along. I found this article about pegging for beginners. I wonder if anyone has an opinion about the quality of this information.
http://www.filamentmagazine.com/2011/05/a-beginners-guide-to-pegging/MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-43206586500635885752012-09-17T15:04:00.001-04:002012-09-18T12:32:36.231-04:00Our duty is to hold our men accountable.
“A man who is accountable to no one is a danger to himself,”—Ilyana VanZant
I would add, “…and to others.” She was talking about Chad Johnson (formerly Ochocinco) who has had too much money, too much freedom, too many women and nobody to tell him, “Enough!” He has, as a result, wasted his opportunities and hurt the people who love him.
Men need someone to hold them MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-55093850347448563562012-09-13T19:36:00.000-04:002012-09-18T12:19:48.431-04:00Susan Gower, sex therapist and relationship advisor? Seriously?Ok, I call "Bullshit."
Once upon a time there was this random woman who wrote an article justifying the cuckhold lifestyle. She wrote an article that claims to be the result of "science." Her premise is that women are hard-wired to spread it around, while men should naturally be kept to one woman. Not only is this riduculous assertion served up with absolutely no evidence or proof whatsover, it MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-61432254837547896342012-09-12T00:46:00.000-04:002012-09-15T22:43:00.951-04:00I Don't Want to be Your Fantasy
Second Life, Woman, Pink (Photo credit: yukali)
I was in Second Life, dancing, socializing, chatting and flirting, like I always do in Second Life, and got a private message from a man I did not know. (I hate that, but men insist on private messaging women they don't know. I guess this is their chance to say stupid shit with only minimal embarrassment.) He said that I was so hot (my avatarMsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7026540906788180439.post-11336909940699556222012-09-03T23:42:00.000-04:002012-09-18T12:24:55.498-04:00One year anniversary of our FLR. Today marks one year since my treasure gave me the gift of the ownership of his collar. It has been a wonderful year of learning and discovering, and loving. We didn't do anything special to celebrate, but we did make a toast to a hopeful future. It is wonderful to have a friend that loves me and thinksbthat serving me is all he needs to be happy. I am cognizant that I am indeed the most MsNaydihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15991393424657367644noreply@blogger.com3