Humanizing Desire

English: A man handcuffed to a bed and blindfolded (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I have just started following this blog, Lipstick and Ligature, and I absolutely adore it. So much genius. This is an article I think everyone needs to read. I love it when you get The Truth. So read this.
 
http://lipstickandligature.wordpress.com/2012/10/02/humanizing-desire/

Points made that hit the mark solidly:

"... women do lust after men, after submissive men, but in a completely different way to what “mainstream” BDSM imagery would have wider culture believe. Common themes seem to centre around vulnerability and the contrast between masculine strength and submission."

"Many male submissives are being damaged by the thoughts that no women want them with their “weird” sexuality and that submission is profoundly unsexy to women. It’s all LIES, I tell you, LIES!"

"In porn, the only time we see dominant women act upon their sexual desire is with some scarily well endowed other man while the submissive cowers in a corner somewhere. You know the attitude: God forbid, his pathetic body dare arouse the desire of a woman." (Exactly why cuckolding disgusts me.)

"Dominant women want to be with and want, need, desire, crave and adore men who also happen to be submissive. Men who are humans first and submissive men second. That is the dynamic that most of us find sexually and romantically attractive." 

So yes, submissive, sensitive, vulnerable men who open up and show us their real selves are very attractive...nay, HOT. Read the post. Good stuff there.

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