"I am woman. Hear me roar..." yada, yada, yada and all that, sure. But sometimes I remember that all I ever wanted was to be his Baby. I am older than he is, yes, that, too. I am a little more experienced, true. I am old as well. But in my heart, in my secret self, sometimes I need to be his Baby.
I need him to hold me in his arms and reassure me. I need him to casually greet me, "Hey, Baby." (That warms me like nothing else.) I need him to say, "Of course I'll fix it, Baby Girl." When my heart is breaking, I need him to murmur, "Oh baby." When we are making love, I need him to tell me, "Damn, Baby!" When he begs, it tickles me when he says, "Please, Baby, Please..."
When my man calls me his baby, I would, at that moment do anything at all for him. At that moment, I know he is my protector, my champion, my knight.
I have learned that even though I am the leader in our relationship, sometimes I just need to toss that role aside and be his baby. HIS Baby.
I feel your hurt. I feel your pain.
ReplyDeleteThere are times also when I only want to be in his arms, to get lost in his smile. To not be the mistress.
We do not give up our feminity when we become a mistress to our man.
Love, Kathy
Hello Ms Naydi,
ReplyDeleteI've discovered your blog by reading Ms Kathy's. I've learned much from her about how a woman in an FLR may feel about herself and her husband. It looks as if I can also learn from you. Thank you for this blog!
Your post here is a great example. I find what you're saying here a great reality check for me. I know that my wife also wants to be my baby, wants me to be a man, wants me to hold her and protect her and sometimes take the lead. And that's OK, in fact, that's good. Her needs are every bit as important as mine.
I also know at the end of the day that my wife has some very firm expectations of me. I intend to communicate vividly to her that in our relationship, she has full right to those expectations, and I am committed to compliance. I want that and need that, and in reality, she wants that too. As long as she can be my baby. :)
Thank you both for your comments. It helps me quite a bit to know that you understand, from both viewpoints...wife and husband. We are healing from what happened. We were at a wedding tonight. Our eyes met when the officiant said, " Keeing yourself only unto her as long as you both shall live."
ReplyDeletePerhaps one of these days I will have that again, I so miss having that physical closeness of her next to me. After sixteen years of closeness and her taking that leadership role for several of those years, it is difficult to do without now that she is gone, it's been a little over a year and I still miss her every day. I do have someone long distance who is close to me, but it is the day to day physical closeness that I miss.
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@DeniseD, I feel for your loss. I just lost my brother-in-law. He was only 48. I have also lost a partner. She was just 50 years old when getting out of bed she pulled the TV down on her head. It isn't easy losing someone.
ReplyDelete@MsNaydi, Given that my husband is a slave/submissive and I am submissive it makes the home dynamic strange at best. But he is a very nice man to me. We do not have the closeness that most couples have due to his health issues. He is a quite large man as well. But I love him dearly! That I could cuddle with him and have him call me baby would be simply amazing.
Chrissy Michelle, chrissy4605, Cayenne Pepper
I feel the same way with women. I normally want to act the submissive, but I understand that women need their (often times) physical protector, and (often times) spiritual protector in the form of a man. In the form of a chivalrous knight. I think that's a part of my submission...the need to protect Her from harm. What do you make of all of this?
ReplyDeleteI think that it is a wonderful proof of real love when a man understands that part of serving his woman is to protect her from harm, pick her up when she falls down, be her hero. This is something that in my opinion, only my man can provide. I love knowing that if necessary, he will fight and die for me. (That is why I don't worry about the Zombie Apocalypse.)
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