Sunday, October 14, 2012

Sex in the 55 to 65 demographic

<strong> © <a href=''>Annalisaball</a> | <a href=''></a></strong>I admit it. I am in that demographic. This is when, actually, I started to really come into my own sexually and recognizing my dominance after I had my hysterectomy and was suddenly free from birth control. Since then, I have been exploring the Femdom blogosphere, and have met many, many intelligent, articulate and wonderful people who have helped me in my journey to realizing my power in my relationships. But all this happened after age 45. (I also have discovered a definite appreciation of the mature male form!)

Today I found this article on, which is the results of a survey they have taken on sexual lives of people in my demographic!

These findings reassure me. My instincts are still good. I am not alone in this.

  • Some of you are in the process of discovering more about your sexuality.
  • The more important sex is to people, the greater their level of satisfaction in their relationships.
  •  Your narratives show that if you can discuss your sexual needs with your partner, you can overcome pretty much anything that life throws at you.
  • Though some may assume that lack of sexual novelty is problematic in a long-term relationship, many of you are thriving on a combination of familiarity and creativity.
  • Clearly, the more couples invest in their sexual relationship, the more they get out of it.
  • Almost two-thirds say going on holiday improves your sex life
So, friends, it seems that it's true that the more you pay attention to your sexual life in your relationship, the better you'll find it and the more satisfied you will be in your life. I thought so!

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Tuesday, October 2, 2012

Humanizing Desire

English: A man handcuffed to a bed and blindfolded
English: A man handcuffed to a bed and blindfolded (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
I have just started following this blog, Lipstick and Ligature, and I absolutely adore it. So much genius. This is an article I think everyone needs to read. I love it when you get The Truth. So read this.

Points made that hit the mark solidly:

"... women do lust after men, after submissive men, but in a completely different way to what “mainstream” BDSM imagery would have wider culture believe. Common themes seem to centre around vulnerability and the contrast between masculine strength and submission."

"Many male submissives are being damaged by the thoughts that no women want them with their “weird” sexuality and that submission is profoundly unsexy to women. It’s all LIES, I tell you, LIES!"

"In porn, the only time we see dominant women act upon their sexual desire is with some scarily well endowed other man while the submissive cowers in a corner somewhere. You know the attitude: God forbid, his pathetic body dare arouse the desire of a woman." (Exactly why cuckolding disgusts me.)

"Dominant women want to be with and want, need, desire, crave and adore men who also happen to be submissive. Men who are humans first and submissive men second. That is the dynamic that most of us find sexually and romantically attractive." 

So yes, submissive, sensitive, vulnerable men who open up and show us their real selves are very attractive...nay, HOT. Read the post. Good stuff there.
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